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Reduce Your Negative Thinking, Even If You’ve Tried Everything Before, In As Little As One Week

Are you tired of being the “negative” friend? Do you struggle to see the positive in your everyday life?

Do you find yourself always in a bad mood or thinking the worst of others or even yourself?

You’re not alone.

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It’s no wonder, so many of us struggle with depression and anxiety!

While everyone has negative thoughts now and then, chronic negative thinking is one of the biggest causes of depression, anxiety and more.

Of course, there are certainly real conditions that affect your brain chemistry and require professional medical attention, but for many, just making just a few small tweaks in your day can make a significant difference.

The truth is, ‘negative thinking’ is habitual, just like brushing your teeth every morning, or drinking a glass of water when you wake up. At Pavlok we’ve studied the science of habit change for the last 4 + years and have discovered several actionable tips and strategies to help reduce negative thinking and improve your overall outlook on life.

Again, we don’t pretend to be a doctor, but having helped thousands of people around the world improve their habits and thinking we’ve learned a thing or two.

Here are a few tips to help reduce negative thinking… even if you’ve tried everything before.

How To Reduce Your Negative Thoughts

Hang Around Positive People

Before you shake your head and exclaim “thank you captain obvious” it’s important to take a quick audit of your social circle.

Is your social life (aka family and friends) draining? Or do they challenge and push you to be the best you can be?

Of course, your social circle is only part of the equation, but if your friends and family are always bringing you down, it’s incredibly tough to overcome your negative thoughts and beliefs.

Reduce Your News Consumption

We’re not suggesting you transform to into a hermit and ignore the often harsh realities of the world, but the truth is, the news is designed to make you anxious and depressed (it gets clicks after all)

Instead of checking your latest news source or social media network replace it with reading an interesting book or going for a run.

This simple tweak alone will go a long way in helping you fight those negative thoughts and increase your chances of success.

Start A Gratitude Journal

One of the best ways to combat your negative thoughts is to train yourself to look for the positive!

The easiest way to do this is to start a gratitude journal where you write 2-3 positive things that happened to you each day. Over time you’ll start to notice things you might not otherwise have seen.

Do this for a month straight, and we promise you’ll be in a much better position than when you started.

Talk To Your Doctor

When you’re caught in a “negative spiral” many of the above tips and tricks might seem pointless. Again, negative thinking for some individuals is a real medical condition, and it always makes sense to get an opinion (or two) from a medical professional you trust.

We’re not suggesting you NEED medication to fix your negative thinking, but it’s important you get a holistic view of your situation.

Use The Pavlok System

While the steps above will most certainly be helpful in reducing your habitual negative chatter, Pavlok has helped thousands of people around the world improve their habits and thoughts through our Pavlok wearable.

You can use the Pavlok to not only become aware of your negative thinking patterns but rewire your brain to reduce those dark thoughts. Aversion and and replacement are the two ways to change a habit. 

Every time you have a negative thought coming on, simply use the Pavlok to give yourself a shock.

Overly critical of your presentation at work? Zap.

Beating yourself up over losing 4 lbs instead of 25lbs? Zap.

Do this as much as you feel comfortable. Over time, you will notice your negative thoughts become less and less.

Of course, Pavlok won’t make you superhuman, but it will bring you pretty darn close.

Here’s how John used Pavlok to cut back on their negative mental chatter.

Learn how John used Pavlok to overcome his chronic negative thoughts – click here to watch the video. 

If you’re wanting to take control of your negative thoughts, and give yourself the best chance to say goodbye to negative thinking for good, order your Pavlok Habit System today.

Imagine no longer being that “negative” friend.

Imagine no longer having your day ruined by one small event.

Imagine waking up optimistic about your future and your life.

It’s time to stop imaging. No matter what habit you’re trying to break…

With a combination of a few small tweaks and taking action today, you can begin to transform your habits for the better.

To help you overcome your negative thoughts and beliefs, for a limited time only, we are offering $40 off your Pavlok 2 order. Just use the coupon code POSITIVITY at checkout.

 

The Ultimate Guide To Stop Biting Your Nails

Editors Note: This is a guest post from a Pavlok user Eric who used Pavlok to help stop biting his nails.

I was once at a party in NYC with some high society types. I didn’t quite fit in, but we all try to level up socially at times. After my third conversation about the latest trip to the Hamptons and how I, “just had to come along next time,” I decided to retreat to the couch for a breather.

It was a nice enough apartment that the host requested we take our shoes off, so when I moved to the sofa, I could feel something sharp protruding from the plush carpet. Thinking it odd that such an affluent host would have anything but a clean floor, I figured I’d reach down to investigate. I rubbed my hand across the carpet searching for the seemingly invisible annoyance, and I was shocked at what I discovered. It was a long fingernail, most likely from someone’s thumb.

Instantly I began to judge the entire guest list. Being a life long finger nail biter and toenail picker myself, I sympathized with the culprit. But at the same time, I was disgusted.

Seeing it from the other side was enough for me to realize the gravity of my habit regarding social perceptions. Nail biting wasn’t just a bad habit, it was disgusting. My final revelation in all this was no matter what, I had to figure out how to stop.

That task proved much more challenging than I thought, and if you’re reading this, you’ve likely realized something similar.

Can you relate? Has your nail-biting ever put you in an awkward situation?

The Consequences Of Nail Biting

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Often, nail biters bite off more than they should chew and end up digging into the live skin and tissue underneath the nail, affecting the nail bed and the cuticle. This damaged skin is exposed to a greater likelihood of infection, especially because the mouth can be an excellent medium for transmitting bacteria and debris.

If that weren’t enough, nail biting has even been linked to certain mouth and dental issues because chronic nail biters can chip teeth and damage their gums.

Because of this, nail biting has an actual medical term, “onychophagia.” If that doesn’t make you feel worse, in the medical community, it’s associated with the following “nervous habits,” of which it is the most common; thumb-sucking, nose-picking, hair-twisting or hair-pulling, tooth-grinding, and picking at skin.

Furthermore, the medical literature agrees the habit often begins early in life with half of all children ages 10 to 18 biting their nails. Thankfully, most people quit on their own by age 30. (WebMD)

If that last sentence made you laugh from sheer hopelessness, you’re not alone. It’s not surprising most people’s only hope is to pray they grow out of it by 30 with the sheer volume of terrible advice out there on the web to “help you stop.” After extensive research and my lifelong effort to quit, it seemed easier to throw my hands in the air and just give up.

Lucky for you that’s not what I did, and in this post, I’m going to outline the exact method I used to quit biting my nails forever, in less than five days. If that sounds too good to be true, I assure you it’s not. I went from brutal looking nails with worse cuticles to this…

(These are my real hands at the time I’m writing this, see the keyboard in the background? And for all the doubters who think I must relegate my chewing to a single hand, I included both.)

I had concluded I was doomed. I had accepted the fact that I’d always have to hide my hands, but now my nails look so good I could be a hand model.

But to understand why the Pavlok method is so effective, you first must see why all the other advice out there isn’t.

The Exact Way to Never Actually Quit Biting Your Nails

Today, when you find yourself with a socially embarrassing bad habit, it’s best to turn to Google. After all, you can find the best modern science and society has to offer on the subject without having to admit to a single person you have a “weird” problem.

Sadly, the internet is in the dark when it comes to actually learning how not to bite your nails.

I mean, there are entire businesses built on helping people quit their addictions, but the best we can do on nail biting is, frankly, shockingly embarrassing.

Here’s an extensive list of all the strategies I found on the internet to help with nail biting:

-Keep your hands busy
-Keep your nails trimmed
-Maintain a healthy diet
-Play/fiddle with an object (good plug for fidget spinners)
-Do a hobby
-Use a “nibble inhibitor” solution on your nails, apply it several times a day, and carry a spare
-Consider covering your nails with band-aids, tape, or gloves
-Use fake nails and acrylics
-Take it easy, break the habit one nail at a time
-Maintain healthy nails
-Wear fake nails
-Exercise
-Meditation
-You can do anything you set your mind to so just commit
-STOP! (yes this was an actual suggestion on one apparently helpful website)
-Rubber band yourself every time you catch yourself
-Fix underlying causes
-Enlist help
-Therapy
-Tell others to point it out
-Set reminders
-Wear “Chewelry,” i.e. necklaces and bracelets you can chew on instead
-Keep at it
-Nail care
-Nail supplements
-Visualize success
-Keep your nails short
-Keep a cuticle cutter in your purse
-Put on nail art that you wouldn’t want to ruin

As you can see, quitting nail biting is incredibly easy, all you have to do is pick one of the many useful strategies from this extensive list, and you should see results in no time.

I swear I didn’t set out to write a comedic blog post, but there’s no other logical reaction to this list other than sheer laughter. These suggestion are all I can find through pages and pages of Google searches and scholarly articles. The above is the advice doctors are trained to give patients like you when you spend all day at their offices.

Look, even Whose Line Is It Anyway? understands how comical these suggestions are:

But it’s not enough to only call these bad ideas out without examining why they don’t work, or if they do provide a temporary fix, why they don’t stick. So, I thought we’d explore the top six most popular suggestions and deconstruct why they don’t work with real psychological and behavioral change science.

The 6 Most Commonly Suggested Strategies for Breaking Your Nail Biting Habit That Don’t Work

  1. Keep Your Nails Shorter
  2. Use a Bad Tasting Nail Polish to Prevent Biting
  3. Splurge and Treat Yourself to Expensive Manicures Frequently
  4. Keep Your Hands and Mouth Busy
  5. Cover Your Nails with Bandages, Adhesives, or Gloves
  6. Break The Habit Gradually, One Nail at a Time

1. Keep Your Nails Shorter

On the surface, this suggestion makes total sense, and it insidiously inspires someone to take quick action, clip their nails short, and think they’re cured forever.

Until something happens, something they never expected, and their nails start to grow again.

You see, people don’t bite their nails when they’re short (duh) so having short nails will make you stop for a few days. But how do you keep them short? And now the theory unravels. Much of the reason people bite their nails is that they have the opportunity to bite their nails. If they had a regular nail shortening and care routine, they probably wouldn’t bite in the first place.

So this strategy is a result of curing the habit, not a tactic to make the pattern stop. As you’ll see, a proper habit forming or deforming routine gives considerable thought to the reward, and in this instance, a beneficial reward would be maintaining healthy nails and keeping them relatively short. But all of that happens after the urge to bite has come and passed. In summary, most nail biters shorten their nails just fine with their mouth, keep their mouth away from them until they are long enough again, and go right back to biting.

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2. Use a Bad Tasting Nail Polish to Prevent Biting

Taste is a fickle thing. For example, do you like spicy food? If you do, you probably really like it. Moreover, you probably look to increase your spice tolerance at certain times when the opportunity arises. You might even remember a time when you didn’t like spicy food or food as spicy as you like now.

On the other hand, if you don’t like spicy food you probably don’t even like the smallest amount of spicy. You likely think all spicy food tastes horrible and you can’t understand why anyone would crave spicy food as much as your friends do.

My point is that taste is extremely relative and is based on many psychological and physiological factors. Some studies even suggest our brains re-condition our taste buds to enjoy spice because of the nutrient density, as this article mentions. So, it’s entirely possible that what you find repulsive today may not be so unpleasant over time.

Indeed, what we see happen is that exact pattern of desensitization. Commonly, people paint their nails with nasty polish all day, but can’t kick their habit. Much like the friend who chews Nicorette all day but still can’t stop sneaking a cigarette, you can change one aspect of the behavior without truly conquering the habit. As we’ll illustrate, what you’re doing, in this case, is only changing the routine part of the habit without doing the deep work to eliminate the triggers and reward the new behavior.

C’mon internet, can’t you do better?

3. Splurge and Treat Yourself to Expensive Manicures Frequently

This one feels like some manicure lobbyist invented it (do those exist?). It’s like we can’t fix any of our problems in America without someone suggesting that we just throw more money at it.

This one fails for many of the same reasons the “just cut your nails shorter” line doesn’t work. However, this one hurts even more because now your bank account is crying louder than your nail beds and you’re feeling guilty every time you chomp down on those expensive bedazzled scratchers.

Don’t get me wrong, I love a nice manicure, but I won’t be fooled into thinking just paying my way out of my problem will cure me.

4. Keep Your Hands and Mouth Busy

If Pavlok made a fidget spinner, this is when I would link to it. As much fun as it is to believe we all have ADHD, fidgeting can’t be the cure for everything. The popularity of fidget cubes and fidget spinners has more to do with smart marketing than changed behavior and a happier, more focused society.

I’m sure the most committed to change could find a way to have something in their pocket to play with at all times along with a fresh stick of gum on hand, but do you want to live like that? One empty pocket away from a relapse?

The minute you’re empty handed you’ll likely return to your old ways. Precisely because you haven’t changed anything about them, you’ve just anxiously avoided dealing with them in perpetuity. It’s like the people who just push their debt further and further into the future accruing more and more along the way.

Eventually, everything crashes to a standstill, and you’re back to square one. Moving on.

5. Cover Your Nails with Bandages, Adhesives, or Gloves

One of the biggest reasons people wish to change their nail biting habit is because it causes social awkwardness, as we mentioned at the beginning of the article.

I’m willing to bet wearing gloves around all day, especially if you live somewhere hot, will cause even more interpersonal angst. And even if you get away with looking like a deranged serial killer most of the day, it just doesn’t seem very practical. I’d like to see an office worker get any emails written with garden gloves on all day.

Until Drake makes wearing bandages around every fingertip the next fashion trend, I wouldn’t seriously look at this as even a remote solution. And again, as soon as the gloves come off you’re back to biting.

6. Break The Habit Gradually, One Nail at a Time

Out of all the common suggestions, this is the one I like the best because it’s the only one that includes an iota of habit science. Acclaimed masters of habit like Charles Duhigg and Leo Babauta recommend breaking up habits into bite sized chunks you can conquer over time.

Although personally, I found that one nail was usually all it took to take me down that slippery slope towards chewing every finger. For some habits, like working out, breaking it up and starting with one push-up a day makes sense, but for nail biting, one nail usually means all nails.

And, at the end of the day, the mental resources required to resist biting one finger at a time are the same needed to withstand biting all your fingers. So why not recruit those resources for the right project and tackle the habit with science?

Well, that’s exactly what I suggest.

Watch the video and see how Pavlok family member Nagina used Pavlok To Quit Biting Her Nails.

The Science of Habit Change

It’s widely considered (and popularized by Charles Duhigg in his book The Power of Habit) in the study of behavior change that a habit is composed of three fundamental parts. The “cue” or “trigger,” the “routine,” and the “reward.” To change a habit, you must tackle all three areas.

Which again, is why many of the common suggestions don’t work. They target one aspect, two at best, and they don’t holistically solve the problem. However, more capable students could mix and match different suggestions with a strategic study of their triggers to make headway.

For me, the entire solution came in the form of Pavlok.

>>> How I Used Pavlok to Stop Nail Biting <<<

Step 1: Awareness of Why I Bit My Nails in the First Place

Pavlok gets a lot of hype and notoriety for its ability to “shock,” but that’s such a small piece of the puzzle. One of the most helpful aspects of wearing a Pavlok around is its ability to draw your conscious attention to your unconscious triggers and start to dive deeply into the cues of your habit. And all of that can be done without a single zap.

For nail biting, Pavlok can detect when your hand is in your mouth, and you’re about to bite, thanks to its built-in accelerometer. So even if you end up biting, Pavlok will vibrate drawing your attention to what you’re doing. You can keep on biting, but often just the awareness reminder is enough to jolt you out of the routine. After about 36 hours of consistent buzzing, I was extremely aware of what caused me to bite.

I found myself biting most often for the following reasons: 1. My nails had grown long and uneven, and my subtle OCD organized brain wanted to even everything out. 2. I was nervous or tense, and I bit out of anxiousness. 3. I was bored and idle, so I unconsciously bit to pass the time.

When it comes to changing your habits, that information alone is invaluable because it helps you to circumvent the habit before it even starts. You can take action to help yourself avoid those scenarios or come out with a counter plan.

Step 2: Rewarding Myself Differently for Avoiding Nail Biting

Often, the reason we continue to perform our bad habit is that it feels good. We get a dopamine or serotonin response from our brain for doing it. For me, biting my nails meant my OCD brain could relax because my nails were even and short, even if they got that way painfully. Or, I didn’t have to think about being nervous because I had something to distract me. Also, time went by faster when I was having fun biting my fingers. That feels good.

Until it doesn’t. Here is where the zap of Pavlok can help. There’s nothing like a good old electric shock to tell your brain to stop secreting feel-good chemicals when you do something wrong. But you don’t have to use that feature if you don’t want to. For nail biters, it can also be as helpful to channel that automatic secretion of good feeling juices into a beneficial behavior.

For example, instead of getting a manicure to prevent yourself from nail biting, what if you could only get one if you went five days without biting? This is a strategy that worked for me.

Every time I bit I would mildly zap myself to tell my brain I didn’t like this behavior. And then after I stopped biting, and my nails grew long, I scheduled regular manicures to replace the reward of even nails with the better reward of professional looking, Hollywood nails. Once girls started complimenting them, it was game over for my old reward system. Compliance felt a lot easier after that.

Step 3: Changing the Routine Mid Habit

Another thing I discovered early on, and consider yourself warned because this is pretty nasty, is that I often picked off my long nails to assist me with picking my teeth post meal. Yeah, I told you, pretty gross.

Thanks to my childhood braces and evenly spaced teeth, after an excellent steak dinner, my mouth is littered with little goodies. Half an hour after eating I used to find myself biting away as usual because now I had a nice little makeshift toothpick. I’m making a disgusted face at myself just writing this. I would even pick like this amidst company. Ah, I need to take a cold shower in shame.

Unlocking this level of awareness with Pavlok helped me kill two birds with one stone. Once I realized this was a thing for me, I went to the store and purchased some of those single serve floss picks and started carrying them around with me. I’d leave some in the car and have some in my pocket just in case

Then, whenever I caught myself biting with the Pavlok, I’d zap and then reach for a little toothpick. Even if I didn’t have anything in my teeth, I’d still just play around with it. People accepted it socially because now it just looked like I was obsessed with my teeth, I’d get a good floss in at the least, and I still had a nervous tick to replace nail biting. Over time I could go longer and longer without noticing my need to perform the routine, and now I don’t even carry the picks.

If I do go to a nice steak dinner, and I’m the slightest bit tempted to reach for my nails (the regular streamlined guy manicure makes it pretty hard), I can do a quick zap with my Pavlok as a reminder. Or, if I’m not wearing it, I can usually wait until returning home to grab a toothpick or ask around for one (or floss) because I’m no longer so conditioned to alleviate the situation with a nail right then and there.

Ok, I promise I’m done writing about how disgusting I am.

Pavlok Isn’t The Only Answer For Everyone, But It Was For Me

I’m sure some of you are reading along thinking, “what the hell, is this guy a Pavlok sales rep or what?” And the answer is no. This post is an entirely honest synopsis of my experience. It’s been the game changer for this habit in my life.

For other habits, I could see more of the conventional wisdom working well. Maybe it’s just me, but for nail biting, I couldn’t keep from laughing at any of the mainstream suggestions.

Pavlok is certainly just another tool in one’s arsenal to help change your habits. And as many would say, change your habits, and you change your life.

>Many of us love efficiency and working smarter over harder. Pavlok makes habit change pretty damn easy. Remember, I decimated a life long nail biting habit in less than a week. I’m confident I’d still be wearing gloves if that were my main strategy.

Moreover, I did all this with Pavlok 1. With Pavlok 2 there are even more powerful features and enhancements to help you even further.

If you’re serious about leaving nail biting behind, and you’ve been searching for a solution, Pavlok may be the answer.

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If so, you’re not alone.

Continue reading 15 Proven Ways To Reduce Your Credit Card Spending (And Debt)

Change Your Reward

Click here to watch my short video on rewards. 

Yesterday we discussed “actions” and how they are an important part of the habit loop.

Hopefully you were able to find some replacement actions for the bad habit you’re trying to break.

For today’s final video, I’m going to discuss how rewards impact your habit change success.

Rewards are a feeling or external factor that encourages you do a certain habit.

If you’re trying to stop a habit, you need to get rid of the pleasure of the habit you’re doing.

It’s that simple.

Pavlok was specifically designed to add a slight amount of uncomfortableness to help you reduce your “reward” of performing a bad habit.

For example, I used Pavlok to stop eating potato chips.

For the first few days, each time I ate a potato chip I would use Pavlok to zap myself.

After just a few times of doing this, I quickly started thinking to myself “Is the potato chip worth a zap”

The answer was almost always no.

Today’s task is to identify the rewards from your bad habit. Once you figure that out, write out 3 ways in which you can make the habit less pleasurable.

You’re now well on your way to destroying your bad habits.

Did you enjoy this week’s mini series on the habit loop? Comment below and let me know!

P.S Next week I’m going to be releasing even more videos on how to break bad habits.

Actions: The Two Ways To Change A Habit.

Click here to watch my videos on “actions” 

Yesterday we talked about triggers and how they are the foundation of habit change.

I hope you enjoyed my story of a Pavlok user and her “flower vase” trigger.

Today we are going to talk about how to actually change your habits, through actions.

There are two ways to change a habit.

1. Aversion
2. Replacement

Both of which Pavlok can hep you with. But today we’re going to focus on “replacement”

A few years ago, before Pavlok, I had a personal trainer who helped me lose weight.

It turns out, my habit of eating a pint of ice cream every day (not the good kind) isn’t very good for your health.

My trainer asked me “why are you eating a pint of ice cream?”

“Because I like it.”

My trainer then said, “Why don’ you try replacing the pint of ice-cream with frozen mixed berries?”

And so I did.

The berries were cold and sweet. It seemed like I was cheating — but I was actually getting 4 servings of fruits and vegetables 🙂

Almost overnight, I got rid of my eating a pint of ice cream habit.

Every time I wanted to eat some ice cream I ate some frozen berries instead.

I quickly started getting the recommended amount of fruits per day. 😉

It seems simple. But with just that one replacement I was able to lose a TON of weight.

For today, I want you to brainstorm some positive replacements for any habit you’re trying to break.

For example, if you’re trying to stop smoking, each time you have the urge to light up, chew a piece of gum instead.

If you’re looking to stop biting your nails, start putting your hand on your right leg every time you have the urge to bit your nails.

Replacing your bad habits with positive ones will make all the difference in the success of your habit formation.

Comment below and let me know what you’re going to to try to replace.

P.S Tomorrow I’ll be talking about rewards. You won’t want to miss it.

Understanding Triggers

Watch my short video on Triggers

Yesterday I broke down the three components of the habit loop, triggers, actions, and rewards, which are essential to understand if you want to make habits that stick.

Today we’ll be talking a little more about triggers, the first part of the habit process.

The trigger is what starts the process loop.

For bad habits, if you can remove the “trigger” in your life, you can quickly quit bad habits.

I want to share a story of a Pavlok user who asked for help with severe depression

She told me that, since she was a teenager, she suffered from rumination and depression.

I told her that Pavlok isn’t a medical device — but I believe some forms of depression are simply habit loops in the brain, and possibly we can help with that.

My recommendation: For the next five days, every time she caught herself in a negative thought loop, I asked her to zap herself, smile, and text me where she was.

On day 1, she caught herself at work. On day 2, she caught herself on the way to work.

On day 3, she was reaching for the front door. On day 4, she was reaching for the front door. On day 5, she was reaching for the front door.

What the heck was going on with her front door? 

There was a flower vase sitting by her front door. When she was 16, she and her twin sister had a birthday party. A bunch of people came — but she got no gifts — everyone had given gifts to her sister alone.

Her sister said “here, take this flower vase.” The vase was triggering thoughts of ‘no one loves me’ and ‘no one cares.’

So I told her to throw away the flower vase. And the ruminations stopped.

 

This story is about the power of triggers. Habit loops start from a trigger. If you can identify the trigger and remove the trigger, in a lot of cases you can stop the habit in its tracks.

Our Pavlok wearable helps you identify problematic triggers. The zap builds awareness earlier in the process.

If you’re trying to change any habit, start with looking for your triggers!

Do you have any obvious triggers causing you to perform bad habits? Comment and let me know.

P.S Tomorrow I’ll be talking about actions and where they fit into the habit loop.