At Pavlok, we’re dedicated to upgrading humanity. It’s an ambitious goal to be sure, but one of the best ways we believe we can do that is by helping the thousands of Shockers in our community overcome their bad habits and form positive behaviors that help them move towards their goals.
Having helped thousands of people change their habits over the last four years, we’ve seen first hand what works and what doesn’t. Today the Pavlok team would like to highlight five reasons you may not be reaching your habit goals and what it takes to right the ship and build habits that help you be your best-self.
You Try To Do Too Many Things At Once
We all have a handful of habits we want to change at any given time. Maybe you want to quit smoking and go to the gym, or perhaps you’re trying to be more productive while also waking up 30 minutes early.
There’s certainly nothing wrong with wanting to improve your life across the board, but one of the biggest mistakes we make with habit change is trying to do too many things at once. While many write this off as common sense, we can’t tell you how many people we’ve seen make the same mistake over and over again.
If you’re struggling to make your habits stick, it’s very likely you’re trying to do too much at a time.
For example, if you’re trying to be more healthy and go to the gym, you can confidently put your “be more productive” goal on the back-burner until you see the results from lifting weights. While it’s tempting to want to rush things, habit change is about changing your lifelong behaviors not cutting corners by looking for the quick fix.
Action Step: Take 30 minutes today and narrow your habit goals. What is the ONE habit that will make the most significant difference in your life? Start there. As you begin building momentum, you’ll likely see your positive habits affect other areas of your life as well.
You Rely On Motivation Only
Another common mistake holding us back from reaching our habit goals is relying on motivation only. It’s easy to watch an inspiring TEDx talk and think that’s the secret to success. But changing your habits is a process that takes time. In an ideal world, we would be motivated 24/7, but the truth is, sometimes the motivation just won’t be there.
Instead of relying on motivation to succeed with your habits, aim to build a habit system that gives you the best chance NOT to fail. You might not be able to go to the gym seven days a week – but you certainly can go for a walk every Monday. You might not be able to cut back on your favorite snacks at first completely, but you can commit to not eating sweets three days of the week.
While motivation is undoubtedly helpful to creating lasting change, it’s not going to sustain you during the times when things get tough.
Action Step: Commit to building your habits slow and steady. Set your goals to where they are easy enough to do on a regular basis without being overwhelming or unrealistic. While it may be cliche, small wins do add up, especially when it comes to changing your habits permanently.
You Beat Yourself Up After A Mistake
You log onto Instagram and see stories of people losing 20 LBS in just 30 days. You see your friend on Facebook quit smoking cold turkey. While many of these stories are inspiring, they often don’t paint an accurate picture of how habit change works.
The Pavlok can give you an advantage in quitting bad habits and put you on the right track, but no system, method, or strategy is going to work 100% of the time. You’ve already committed to changing your habits and reaching your goal, so don’t beat yourself up on the rare occasion you make a mistake.
You should never aim to “fail,” but you should always be prepared to start again the next day in the case you do mess up.
If you’re trying to improve your diet and have a chocolate chip cookie, it’s not the end of the world. Take note of why you slipped up and do everything in your power to prevent it from happening again.
Don’t let the “rose-colored” filter of social media create a never-ending habit loop of self-pity. We all make mistakes. Building good habits and quitting bad ones take time.
Action Step: Next time you “slip up” instead of allowing negative self-talk to derail your progress, acknowledge that these things are part of the process. Take a mental note of why you fell off track, and use that knowledge to reduce the chances of it occurring again in the future.
You Go “All In”
Another common mistake that prevents long-term habit change is our belief that to change we need to make drastic changes. You see and hear about it all the time.
Your coworker who goes from not exercising ever, to going to the gym 2 hours a day seven days a week.
Your family member who goes from drinking three sodas a day to only drinking tea.
The all in approach can work for the rare exception, but for most of us, this method fails. If you’re used to eating a pizza every day, the odds of you never eating a pizza again are pretty low. But with a strategic plan and the right system, you can certainly get to a place where you no longer feel the NEED to eat pizza.
Building small wins into your habit change strategy will allow you to increase your momentum every day and prevent you from giving up if you slip up.
Action Step: Break down your habits into small actionable steps you can take consistently. Scale back your ambition on PURPOSE. Once you get into a rhythm, the momentum will allow you to be more aggressive with your habits over time.
You Try To Change Your Habits Solo
Last on the list, and perhaps one of the biggest mistakes we see here at Pavlok and in the community is trying to change your habits on your own.
If you’ve been a lifelong smoker, it’s not easy becoming a non-smoker. If you’ve spent your entire adult life being negative on a regular basis, you won’t just stop thinking negative thoughts tomorrow.
One of the best ways to improve your chances of habit success is by surrounding yourself with people who will help you reach your goals. The more people you have in your “corner,” the more likely it is you will succeed. No matter what habit you’re trying to change or quit, there is someone out there who has done what you’re trying to do.
Do everything in your control to surround yourself with people who will encourage and push you during the times you feel like giving up.
Action Step: Audit your current social circle. Are your friends and family supportive of your desired change? Follow inspiring people on social media. Go to local meet-ups. Join the Pavlok Facebook community. There are hundreds of places you can go to build a support network that is committed to your personal growth.
Are any of the above reasons holding you back? If so, there’s plenty you can do to change your plan of attack and make things happen. Don’t let your excuses prevent you from making those life-altering changes.
If you need a little boost to get your habits in check, order your Pavlok 2 today. It’s the best habit change wearable on the market and has helped thousands of people improve their habits such as waking up earlier and quitting smoking.
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Pavlokians,
Where has the year gone? In less than a month-and-a-half we’ll be turning the page on 2017 and welcoming 2018 in style.
Like most people, I have been reflecting on 2017, spending tons of time looking at what’s gone right (a lot), and what I can do to make 2018 better, (that also falls under the “a lot” category.)
And while the end of the year is perfect to start planning what you’re going to do differently in 2018, there is absolutely no reason as to why you can’t start working on your goals now.
Of course, it’s important to spend time with family and friends during the holiday season, but working to end the year with momentum can make all the difference in the world.
Here are a few habits you can start working on TODAY, that will set you up for success once the clock strikes midnight December 31st.
Drink More Water
Yeah. Yeah. Drink more water. Cliche, I know. If you’re rolling your eyes, but your urine is as yellow as big bird, your actions aren’t exactly mapping your goals.
Drinking more water is one of the simplest things you can do to improve your overall health, attitude, and mood.
While we all KNOW drinking water is good for us, very few go the extra mile and implement a system to make sure you’re hydrating yourself thoroughly every single day.
Simply by keeping a bottle of water by your desk, or creating specific triggers throughout your day to remind you, can help get you hydrated without any additional effort.
For example, you can use your Pavlok 2 to buzz every few hours throughout the day to make sure you take a moment and down a glass of hydrating H2O.
If your pee is clear, you’re winning at life. If not, there’s no excuse not to start drinking more water.
Build Your Morning Routine
At Pavlok we’re a HUGE fan or morning routines, and while it certainly won’t make you a millionaire overnight, or solve all your problems, starting your day with a specific structure does give you the best chance to have a productive and enjoyable day.
No need to overdo it with a list of 47 things you HAVE to get done. Start small.
When you wake up, down a huge glass of water (see above), do some light stretching, read a passage of your favorite book and be on your way.
As you become more comfortable with a morning routine, you can certainly add more complex components, but the most important part is you start building a routine today.
Even if you spend just 10 minutes consciously going through your morning routine, you’ll see a significant improvement in your day very quickly. Trust me.
If you use your Pavlok 2, you can wake yourself up with a few jumping jacks and ensure you rise at the most optimal time of your sleeping cycle.
What’s not to like?
Start Going To The Gym
One of the best parts of getting into a gym routine now is you won’t have to compete with the thousands of people who join at the start of the new year.
Of course, many of those who join January 1st won’t step foot in the gym another time that year… but you’re not like most people.
Start getting your body in shape now, and you’ll start 2018 with momentum, instead of needing a month or two get up to speed.
Lift weights. Eat right now. Your body and mind will thank you later.
Practice Mindfulness
The holiday season is a great time to celebrate and be in the company of family and friends, but it’s also a time that can be stressful for many.
Dozens of get-togethers, parties, and reminding your aunt that what you do for a living is called “social media.”
The last few months of 2017 is the perfect time to practice mindfulness and enjoy every moment to the fullest.
This applies to deep conversations with your relatives, savoring that delicious piece of apple pie, and even being grateful for the many gifts you will receive.
You can use your Pavlok 2 to bring you back to the moment if you catch yourself worrying about something that may or may not happen.
The important thing is to be present as much as possible during these last few months and express your gratitude for everything that has gone right in 2017.
Write Every Day
Whether writing is a part of your daily life or not, getting in the habit of writing down your thoughts every day is a powerful way to improve your focus, motivation, and drive.
You don’t have to start a blog, but dedicating just 15 minutes each morning to journaling can make a huge difference.
Some topics to consider:
What has gone right in 2017?
Where can I improve?
What do I hope to accomplish in 2018?
What are 1-2 themes I can commit to working on in 2018?
Answer these questions, and you’ll be putting yourself in the absolute best position to succeed.
You can see how one Pavlok user uses his Pavlok to make sure he writes regularly.
Stretch More
Another “yeah duh” habit on this list. But odds are even if you know stretching is good for you… you’re not doing it nearly enough.
With so many of us spending 9-10 hours a day hunched over on the computer, taking 3-4 breaks throughout the day to get up and move can help get your body in tip-top shape.
You don’t have to master the 1,000 poses of yoga, but just doing some light stretching throughout the day is enough to keep your body loose and ready to take on anything the day throws at you.
As with the water reminders, you can use the Pavlok to remind you to get up and stretch.
Get Better Sleep
The quality of your sleep has a dramatic impact on willpower, mood, and more.
Instead of boring you with the cliche “you should get 7-8 hours of sleep”, just know that you can improve the quality of your Zzz’s by beginning to form an evening routine.
Turn off your electronics at a certain time each night. Take a moment to do some light meditation. Spend 5-10 minutes planning the following day.
Not only will this help you sleep better, but it will also give you something to look forward to the next day, and you can hit the pillow knowing you are prepared and ready.
Use the Pavlok 2 to tell you when you should go to bed and wake you up in the optimal part of your sleep cycle.
Quality sleep does make all the difference.
Read More
Last on the list is something that virtually all of us can do more of.
Read more.
Whether you like to devour a good fiction book or want to keep your mind sharp with the latest best selling nonfiction, commit to getting into the habit of reading more now.
If reading isn’t your thing, be sure to pick up an Audible subscription for a small investment.
Not only will the habit of reading help you keep up to date in your chosen field or profession, but the uplifting content you consume will also help you get your mind right for the start of the new year.
Commit to reading for 15 uninterrupted minutes, or 10 pages each day.
Start Now
There’s no need to wait until January 1st to start making changes. By starting now with over a month and a half left of the year, you’ll hit 2018 running and set yourself up for an extraordinary year.
-Maneesh Sethi
CEO of Pavlok
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Happy Thursday. As you may have heard we are super excited to have recently opened up Pavlok 2 orders to the entire community. The response so far has been nothing but amazing.
And, while the Pavlok 2 is the only wearable on the market to help you break bad habits and implement healthier and more positive behaviors…
The truth is, it’s only a tool to help you accelerate your progress.
Another important component is understanding the habit you’re trying to break, so you’re armed with the tools and knowledge to give yourself the best chance to succeed.
We understand that not everyone is in the position to order a Pavlok 2, so I tasked my team to create 4 specific guides to help you make progress on your habits and goals.
No cost. No catch.
To get the free guide, simply click the link of the habit you’re currently focusing on, and I’ll immediately send you a breakdown on how to take the best approach.
These guides alone can significantly improve your chances of making huge strides in your habit change goals.
Just click the guide that interests you most, and get to habit-hacking.
-Maneesh Sethi
P.S If you are on the fence about grabbing your Pavlok 2 wearable, each of the above guides comes with its own unique 25% discount code. Download the guide of your choice and enjoy 25% off on your Pavlok 2 purchase.
Drinking should be defined as the amount of alcohol consumed of alcohol. According to the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism there are two separate levels of alcohol consumption. All of which can be dangerous, but obviously the more alcohol consumed the more you put yourself and others at risk of injury and even death.
Moderate levels of alcohol consumption is the lowest level. In its definition It includes 1 drink per day for women and 2 drinks per day for men.
The final level of alcohol use is “Heavy Alcohol use”. It has been defined as binge drinking for 5 or more days days in the past month. Binge drinking is consuming enough alcohol to reach or surpass a blood alcohol content of .08 or higher.
It should be noted that the criterion of “one drink” changes dependent on the % of alcohol in that drink. For beer, a 12 fl oz at 5 % alcohol is consider 1 drink; Wine, 5 fl oz at 12%, is 1 drink; Liquor, 1.5 fl oz at 40% alcohol (80 proof). It is estimated that 1 fl oz can take an hour to metabolize.
What is the problem?
According to the National Council on Alcoholism and Drug Dependence, Inc alcohol is the most used addictive substance in the United States. With one in twelve Americans suffering from alcohol abuse or dependency, it is a dangerous but popular drug. Alcohol abuse does not only affect the person who uses alcohol, it also adversely affects the spouse, children, and coworkers.
Identification of risk of developing Alcohol Use Disorder (AUD) for women is having three or less drinks a day and not drinking every day of the week. For men it increased to four drinks a day and 14 drinks per week. The good news is that even if you meet this criteria only 1 out of 50 actually develop/have AUD. In other words, many “casual drinkers” already show risks of developing AUD, but only 2% actually are diagnosed.
Had times when you ended up drinking more, or longer, than you intended?
More than once wanted to cut down or stop drinking, or tried to, but couldn’t?
Spent a lot of time drinking? Or being sick or getting over other aftereffects?
Wanted a drink so badly you couldn’t think of anything else?
Found that drinking—or being sick from drinking—often interfered with taking care of your home or family? Or caused job troubles? Or school problems?
Continued to drink even though it was causing trouble with your family or friends?
Given up or cut back on activities that were important or interesting to you, or gave you pleasure, in order to drink?
More than once gotten into situations while or after drinking that increased your chances of getting hurt (such as driving, swimming, using machinery, walking in a dangerous area, or having unsafe sex)?
Continued to drink even though it was making you feel depressed or anxious or adding to another health problem? Or after having had a memory blackout?
Had to drink much more than you once did to get the effect you want? Or found that your usual number of drinks had much less effect than before?
Found that when the effects of alcohol were wearing off, you had withdrawal symptoms, such as trouble sleeping, shakiness, restlessness, nausea, sweating, a racing heart, or a seizure? Or sensed things that were not there?
Basic Facts (Population, demographics, facts.)
It is estimated that there are 88,000 deaths a year due to alcohol, and it is the third leading cause of death in the nation. Alcohol affects men and women differently: it takes women longer to metabolize it; however, alcohol abuse is more common in men than in women. In the world, over 2 billion people drink alcohol, and around 75 million people are affected by alcohol-related disorders.
Although not all alcohol use leads to addiction or dependency, alcohol has been the only drug banned as an amendment via the 18th amendment only to be repealed in the 21st.
Effects
According to drugabuse.com short term effects of alcohol may include some positive symptoms such as mild euphoria, mood enhancement, lowered anxiety, marked sedation. It should also be noted the negative short-term consequences such as impaired vision, delayed reaction time, confusion, vomiting, blackouts, loss of bladder control.
Long-term consequences may include cancer, hepatitis, scarring of the liver, and increased blood pressure which could lead to heart problems. Financially it takes a toll too.
According to a 2000 report on alcohol, the cost estimate for alcohol abuse was over 184 trillion dollars in 1998, which was up from a 1992 estimate of 148 trillion. These include the cost of loss of an individual, services such as counseling, criminal justice, and medical consequences.
How Alcohol Affects your Brain and Body
Habit Analysis and Common Triggers
To best analyze a habit we first must devise it up into three parts. The trigger, or what is evoking or eliciting the habit, the habit itself, and the rewards granted by that habit.
Triggers for alcohol consumption vary and can be very subtle. Here are some to consider:
Friends invitation to a bar
A sign on at a bar
Being in a setting that sells liquor
Lack of alternatives in the evening
Holidays such as St. Patrick’s Day, the day before Thanksgiving, and birthdays
Free samples offered at stores
Deals and specials
An abundance of time waiting (airports, casinos, hotels)
Social events
Sporting events (Football game, Bowling, Darts)
Like triggers the form of habits may vary from case to case. It is important to note which behaviors are “acceptable” and which should be avoided. For example many consider drinking at a bar is acceptable; however, drinking on the job may be less than satisfactory. Of course many of these depends on the individual circumstance. Each may mold both a different trigger and reward.
With friends at a bar
Alone at a bar
Drinking at home
Concealed drinking on the job
Drinking and driving
Binge drinking
Taking shots
Drinking Wine
Drinking Beer
Drinking games such a beer pong, flip cup, and others which speed of consumption matter.
Although rewards and reinforcers differ conceptually, the following should be considered more like reinforcers as they are likely to be maintaining habit. They may not be considered as rewards to general society.
Social praise (Chug! Chug! Chug!)
Social bonding as a chance to meet new people
The “buzz” feeling of alcohol
Passing out
The escape of a less desirable situation
“Liquid confidence”
The taste
A marker of celebration such as holidays, end of a work week, and a completion of a task
Inclusion in a participation in a cultural event
Access to other things such as pool, darts, food
After analyzing a habit cycle we then know the best place to manipulate one of the three variables. By doing this we may encounter more than one trigger, habit pattern, or reward type that controls the drinking behavior. We should choose one habit to change first and work our way towards others.
It may be easiest to manipulate the trigger variable in many of these cases as we can change many things before the trigger occurs to break the habit. More on this later.
As mentioned above to change a habit we must alter the habit cycle. The usual goal of treatment in alcohol is usually abstinence, in other words completely removing alcohol consumption. This can be done in three different ways: by removing the trigger (the trigger), reducing the motivation (the reward), or by reducing the ability to perform the habit.
Stopping the Habit for Good
Possible triggers for alcohol consumption as discussed above include most bars and restaurants which serve alcohol. Many sporting events serve alcohol, and it is popular to consume alcohol while watching a sporting event. Some peers could also serve as a trigger as in many settings drinking is a social event. To accomplish the elimination of alcohol consumption it may be suggested to remove these triggers. One could simply avoid any place which serves alcohol, which may be a difficult challenge. The other solution is to find similar triggers that do not yield the same consequence, such as drinking alcohol free beer and sparkling champagne.
Rewards for alcohol varies from person to person: the buzz feeling, the excitement of events that are paired with alcohol consumption, and the feeling of belonging with your peers who are also drinking all may function. It is suggested to try to reduce these motivation. Possibly by finding alternative sources that fulfill that same level of motivation. Find alternative activities that can be done without alcohol, locate different peer. More specifically one could join a club that meets up at the same time you would normally drink.
An alternative view is that alcohol consumption may not be due to a reward, but rather as a way to gain distance from something aversive. If a bar is the only place to get away from a nagging spouse or daily responsibility, the environment may be perfect to establish a dependency on alcohol. One report may describe it best as an escape from reality.
Reducing the Habit
If your goal is to decrease alcohol consumption, we still need to examine the habit cycle. Instead of blocking the ability to drink, if one would like to just decrease the behavior, we may reduce the ability to drink. This could mean purchasing less alcohol, limiting the nights of the week you goes, and drinking only drinks with less alcohol content. Here it would be helpful to have clear goals: a specific number of days you may consume alcohol, how much money you can spend, or the amount you can assume.
Which one of these is not a specific goal?
A. I want to drink only 1 day a week
B. I want drink less
C. I want to spend $10 or less on alcohol this week
D. Drinking is bad, I only want to drink after work on Friday
B is correct. Drinking less is not specific. We need to know how much.
To replace rewards rather than simply to reduce, we can associate drinking with an aversive stimulus such as pain, fear, or rejection. In this approach we drink, but may pay for it. This can be with money, electrical shock, or with the loss of something pleasurable.
Treatment
To best analyze treatment solution we may use a Cost and Benefit Matrix featured below. The boxes here are not an exhausted. Any intervention, independent of success can fit into these boxes to be analyzed. There are four ways of reducing the drinking behavior:
Increase the cost of drinking
Decrease the benefits of drinking
Decrease the cost of alternatives
Increase the benefits of the alternative
Cost and Benefit Matrix of Consuming Alcohol Compared to Alternatives
Cost
Benefits
Drinking
(1.) $, Hangover, Cancer,…
(2.)Buzz, Social, Escape,…
Alternative
(3.)
(4.)
Most interventions aim at intervening at only the first two levels by manipulating the effects of drinking. Here are some examples:
Going to AA – (1.) Drinking results in the loss of tokens and social acceptances
Antabus drug (1. ) Drinking now makes you nauseous
Naltrexone and other drugs (2 Orange.) Drinking now loses it’s appeal
DWI (1&2) A penalty for drinking and now blocked from going places
Removal of all alcohol from home (1 Yellow.) It is now harder to get alcohol
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) (1.Pink ) increases the costs of drinking by paying for therapy
Free/movie nights (3.) Gives a cheap alternative to accomplish
Marriage Counseling (4.) May save failing marriage.
How the Pavlok Can Help
The Pavlok is programmed to track your behavior. With the If This Then That (IFTTT) app a beep, vibration, or shock can be sent directly to the Pavlok when you are close to any programmed location. This means a user of the Pavlok can simply type the address of their local bar and if they approach this site, a stimulus will be administered.
If you already own a Pavlok and want to set up the location feature with IFTTT click here https://ifttt.com/login to set up account and follow these steps.
Click My Applets
Click “+This”
Type “Location”
Click location and choose one of the three options
Pick the location by typing in the address
Press “Create Trigger”
Press +that
Type “Pavlok” in the search
Choose one of the four options “zap”
Set strength (low, medium, high)
Click “Create action”
Click “Finish”
Sources And Resources
Dickter, C.L., Forestell, C.A., Hammett, P.J. et al. Psychopharmacology (2014) 231: 2031. doi:10.1007/s00213-013-3348-6
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Editors Note: This is a guest post from a Pavlok user Eric who used Pavlok to help stop biting his nails.
I was once at a party in NYC with some high society types. I didn’t quite fit in, but we all try to level up socially at times. After my third conversation about the latest trip to the Hamptons and how I, “just had to come along next time,” I decided to retreat to the couch for a breather.
It was a nice enough apartment that the host requested we take our shoes off, so when I moved to the sofa, I could feel something sharp protruding from the plush carpet. Thinking it odd that such an affluent host would have anything but a clean floor, I figured I’d reach down to investigate. I rubbed my hand across the carpet searching for the seemingly invisible annoyance, and I was shocked at what I discovered. It was a long fingernail, most likely from someone’s thumb.
Instantly I began to judge the entire guest list. Being a life long finger nail biter and toenail picker myself, I sympathized with the culprit. But at the same time, I was disgusted.
Seeing it from the other side was enough for me to realize the gravity of my habit regarding social perceptions. Nail biting wasn’t just a bad habit, it was disgusting. My final revelation in all this was no matter what, I had to figure out how to stop.
That task proved much more challenging than I thought, and if you’re reading this, you’ve likely realized something similar.
Can you relate? Has your nail-biting ever put you in an awkward situation?
The Consequences Of Nail Biting
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Often, nail biters bite off more than they should chew and end up digging into the live skin and tissue underneath the nail, affecting the nail bed and the cuticle. This damaged skin is exposed to a greater likelihood of infection, especially because the mouth can be an excellent medium for transmitting bacteria and debris.
If that weren’t enough, nail biting has even been linked to certain mouth and dental issues because chronic nail biters can chip teeth and damage their gums.
Because of this, nail biting has an actual medical term, “onychophagia.” If that doesn’t make you feel worse, in the medical community, it’s associated with the following “nervous habits,” of which it is the most common; thumb-sucking, nose-picking, hair-twisting or hair-pulling, tooth-grinding, and picking at skin.
Furthermore, the medical literature agrees the habit often begins early in life with half of all children ages 10 to 18 biting their nails. Thankfully, most people quit on their own by age 30. (WebMD)
If that last sentence made you laugh from sheer hopelessness, you’re not alone. It’s not surprising most people’s only hope is to pray they grow out of it by 30 with the sheer volume of terrible advice out there on the web to “help you stop.” After extensive research and my lifelong effort to quit, it seemed easier to throw my hands in the air and just give up.
Lucky for you that’s not what I did, and in this post, I’m going to outline the exact method I used to quit biting my nails forever, in less than five days. If that sounds too good to be true, I assure you it’s not. I went from brutal looking nails with worse cuticles to this…
(These are my real hands at the time I’m writing this, see the keyboard in the background? And for all the doubters who think I must relegate my chewing to a single hand, I included both.)
I had concluded I was doomed. I had accepted the fact that I’d always have to hide my hands, but now my nails look so good I could be a hand model.
But to understand why the Pavlok method is so effective, you first must see why all the other advice out there isn’t.
The Exact Way to Never Actually Quit Biting Your Nails
Today, when you find yourself with a socially embarrassing bad habit, it’s best to turn to Google. After all, you can find the best modern science and society has to offer on the subject without having to admit to a single person you have a “weird” problem.
Sadly, the internet is in the dark when it comes to actually learning how not to bite your nails.
I mean, there are entire businesses built on helping people quit their addictions, but the best we can do on nail biting is, frankly, shockingly embarrassing.
Here’s an extensive list of all the strategies I found on the internet to help with nail biting:
-Keep your hands busy
-Keep your nails trimmed
-Maintain a healthy diet
-Play/fiddle with an object (good plug for fidget spinners)
-Do a hobby
-Use a “nibble inhibitor” solution on your nails, apply it several times a day, and carry a spare
-Consider covering your nails with band-aids, tape, or gloves
-Use fake nails and acrylics
-Take it easy, break the habit one nail at a time
-Maintain healthy nails
-Wear fake nails
-Exercise
-Meditation
-You can do anything you set your mind to so just commit
-STOP! (yes this was an actual suggestion on one apparently helpful website)
-Rubber band yourself every time you catch yourself
-Fix underlying causes
-Enlist help
-Therapy
-Tell others to point it out
-Set reminders
-Wear “Chewelry,” i.e. necklaces and bracelets you can chew on instead
-Keep at it
-Nail care
-Nail supplements
-Visualize success
-Keep your nails short
-Keep a cuticle cutter in your purse
-Put on nail art that you wouldn’t want to ruin
As you can see, quitting nail biting is incredibly easy, all you have to do is pick one of the many useful strategies from this extensive list, and you should see results in no time.
I swear I didn’t set out to write a comedic blog post, but there’s no other logical reaction to this list other than sheer laughter. These suggestion are all I can find through pages and pages of Google searches and scholarly articles. The above is the advice doctors are trained to give patients like you when you spend all day at their offices.
But it’s not enough to only call these bad ideas out without examining why they don’t work, or if they do provide a temporary fix, why they don’t stick. So, I thought we’d explore the top six most popular suggestions and deconstruct why they don’t work with real psychological and behavioral change science.
The 6 Most Commonly Suggested Strategies for Breaking Your Nail Biting Habit That Don’t Work
Keep Your Nails Shorter
Use a Bad Tasting Nail Polish to Prevent Biting
Splurge and Treat Yourself to Expensive Manicures Frequently
Keep Your Hands and Mouth Busy
Cover Your Nails with Bandages, Adhesives, or Gloves
Break The Habit Gradually, One Nail at a Time
1. Keep Your Nails Shorter
On the surface, this suggestion makes total sense, and it insidiously inspires someone to take quick action, clip their nails short, and think they’re cured forever.
Until something happens, something they never expected, and their nails start to grow again.
You see, people don’t bite their nails when they’re short (duh) so having short nails will make you stop for a few days. But how do you keep them short? And now the theory unravels. Much of the reason people bite their nails is that they have the opportunity to bite their nails. If they had a regular nail shortening and care routine, they probably wouldn’t bite in the first place.
So this strategy is a result of curing the habit, not a tactic to make the pattern stop. As you’ll see, a proper habit forming or deforming routine gives considerable thought to the reward, and in this instance, a beneficial reward would be maintaining healthy nails and keeping them relatively short. But all of that happens after the urge to bite has come and passed. In summary, most nail biters shorten their nails just fine with their mouth, keep their mouth away from them until they are long enough again, and go right back to biting.
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2. Use a Bad Tasting Nail Polish to Prevent Biting
Taste is a fickle thing. For example, do you like spicy food? If you do, you probably really like it. Moreover, you probably look to increase your spice tolerance at certain times when the opportunity arises. You might even remember a time when you didn’t like spicy food or food as spicy as you like now.
On the other hand, if you don’t like spicy food you probably don’t even like the smallest amount of spicy. You likely think all spicy food tastes horrible and you can’t understand why anyone would crave spicy food as much as your friends do.
My point is that taste is extremely relative and is based on many psychological and physiological factors. Some studies even suggest our brains re-condition our taste buds to enjoy spice because of the nutrient density, as this article mentions. So, it’s entirely possible that what you find repulsive today may not be so unpleasant over time.
Indeed, what we see happen is that exact pattern of desensitization. Commonly, people paint their nails with nasty polish all day, but can’t kick their habit. Much like the friend who chews Nicorette all day but still can’t stop sneaking a cigarette, you can change one aspect of the behavior without truly conquering the habit. As we’ll illustrate, what you’re doing, in this case, is only changing the routine part of the habit without doing the deep work to eliminate the triggers and reward the new behavior.
C’mon internet, can’t you do better?
3. Splurge and Treat Yourself to Expensive Manicures Frequently
This one feels like some manicure lobbyist invented it (do those exist?). It’s like we can’t fix any of our problems in America without someone suggesting that we just throw more money at it.
This one fails for many of the same reasons the “just cut your nails shorter” line doesn’t work. However, this one hurts even more because now your bank account is crying louder than your nail beds and you’re feeling guilty every time you chomp down on those expensive bedazzled scratchers.
Don’t get me wrong, I love a nice manicure, but I won’t be fooled into thinking just paying my way out of my problem will cure me.
4. Keep Your Hands and Mouth Busy
If Pavlok made a fidget spinner, this is when I would link to it. As much fun as it is to believe we all have ADHD, fidgeting can’t be the cure for everything. The popularity of fidget cubes and fidget spinners has more to do with smart marketing than changed behavior and a happier, more focused society.
I’m sure the most committed to change could find a way to have something in their pocket to play with at all times along with a fresh stick of gum on hand, but do you want to live like that? One empty pocket away from a relapse?
The minute you’re empty handed you’ll likely return to your old ways. Precisely because you haven’t changed anything about them, you’ve just anxiously avoided dealing with them in perpetuity. It’s like the people who just push their debt further and further into the future accruing more and more along the way.
Eventually, everything crashes to a standstill, and you’re back to square one. Moving on.
5. Cover Your Nails with Bandages, Adhesives, or Gloves
One of the biggest reasons people wish to change their nail biting habit is because it causes social awkwardness, as we mentioned at the beginning of the article.
I’m willing to bet wearing gloves around all day, especially if you live somewhere hot, will cause even more interpersonal angst. And even if you get away with looking like a deranged serial killer most of the day, it just doesn’t seem very practical. I’d like to see an office worker get any emails written with garden gloves on all day.
Until Drake makes wearing bandages around every fingertip the next fashion trend, I wouldn’t seriously look at this as even a remote solution. And again, as soon as the gloves come off you’re back to biting.
6. Break The Habit Gradually, One Nail at a Time
Out of all the common suggestions, this is the one I like the best because it’s the only one that includes an iota of habit science. Acclaimed masters of habit like Charles Duhigg and Leo Babauta recommend breaking up habits into bite sized chunks you can conquer over time.
Although personally, I found that one nail was usually all it took to take me down that slippery slope towards chewing every finger. For some habits, like working out, breaking it up and starting with one push-up a day makes sense, but for nail biting, one nail usually means all nails.
And, at the end of the day, the mental resources required to resist biting one finger at a time are the same needed to withstand biting all your fingers. So why not recruit those resources for the right project and tackle the habit with science?
Well, that’s exactly what I suggest.
Watch the video and see how Pavlok family member Nagina used Pavlok To Quit Biting Her Nails.
The Science of Habit Change
It’s widely considered (and popularized by Charles Duhigg in his book The Power of Habit) in the study of behavior change that a habit is composed of three fundamental parts. The “cue” or “trigger,” the “routine,” and the “reward.” To change a habit, you must tackle all three areas.
Which again, is why many of the common suggestions don’t work. They target one aspect, two at best, and they don’t holistically solve the problem. However, more capable students could mix and match different suggestions with a strategic study of their triggers to make headway.
For me, the entire solution came in the form of Pavlok.
>>> How I Used Pavlok to Stop Nail Biting <<<
Step 1: Awareness of Why I Bit My Nails in the First Place
Pavlok gets a lot of hype and notoriety for its ability to “shock,” but that’s such a small piece of the puzzle. One of the most helpful aspects of wearing a Pavlok around is its ability to draw your conscious attention to your unconscious triggers and start to dive deeply into the cues of your habit. And all of that can be done without a single zap.
For nail biting, Pavlok can detect when your hand is in your mouth, and you’re about to bite, thanks to its built-in accelerometer. So even if you end up biting, Pavlok will vibrate drawing your attention to what you’re doing. You can keep on biting, but often just the awareness reminder is enough to jolt you out of the routine. After about 36 hours of consistent buzzing, I was extremely aware of what caused me to bite.
I found myself biting most often for the following reasons: 1. My nails had grown long and uneven, and my subtle OCD organized brain wanted to even everything out. 2. I was nervous or tense, and I bit out of anxiousness. 3. I was bored and idle, so I unconsciously bit to pass the time.
When it comes to changing your habits, that information alone is invaluable because it helps you to circumvent the habit before it even starts. You can take action to help yourself avoid those scenarios or come out with a counter plan.
Step 2: Rewarding Myself Differently for Avoiding Nail Biting
Often, the reason we continue to perform our bad habit is that it feels good. We get a dopamine or serotonin response from our brain for doing it. For me, biting my nails meant my OCD brain could relax because my nails were even and short, even if they got that way painfully. Or, I didn’t have to think about being nervous because I had something to distract me. Also, time went by faster when I was having fun biting my fingers. That feels good.
Until it doesn’t. Here is where the zap of Pavlok can help. There’s nothing like a good old electric shock to tell your brain to stop secreting feel-good chemicals when you do something wrong. But you don’t have to use that feature if you don’t want to. For nail biters, it can also be as helpful to channel that automatic secretion of good feeling juices into a beneficial behavior.
For example, instead of getting a manicure to prevent yourself from nail biting, what if you could only get one if you went five days without biting? This is a strategy that worked for me.
Every time I bit I would mildly zap myself to tell my brain I didn’t like this behavior. And then after I stopped biting, and my nails grew long, I scheduled regular manicures to replace the reward of even nails with the better reward of professional looking, Hollywood nails. Once girls started complimenting them, it was game over for my old reward system. Compliance felt a lot easier after that.
Step 3: Changing the Routine Mid Habit
Another thing I discovered early on, and consider yourself warned because this is pretty nasty, is that I often picked off my long nails to assist me with picking my teeth post meal. Yeah, I told you, pretty gross.
Thanks to my childhood braces and evenly spaced teeth, after an excellent steak dinner, my mouth is littered with little goodies. Half an hour after eating I used to find myself biting away as usual because now I had a nice little makeshift toothpick. I’m making a disgusted face at myself just writing this. I would even pick like this amidst company. Ah, I need to take a cold shower in shame.
Unlocking this level of awareness with Pavlok helped me kill two birds with one stone. Once I realized this was a thing for me, I went to the store and purchased some of those single serve floss picks and started carrying them around with me. I’d leave some in the car and have some in my pocket just in case
Then, whenever I caught myself biting with the Pavlok, I’d zap and then reach for a little toothpick. Even if I didn’t have anything in my teeth, I’d still just play around with it. People accepted it socially because now it just looked like I was obsessed with my teeth, I’d get a good floss in at the least, and I still had a nervous tick to replace nail biting. Over time I could go longer and longer without noticing my need to perform the routine, and now I don’t even carry the picks.
If I do go to a nice steak dinner, and I’m the slightest bit tempted to reach for my nails (the regular streamlined guy manicure makes it pretty hard), I can do a quick zap with my Pavlok as a reminder. Or, if I’m not wearing it, I can usually wait until returning home to grab a toothpick or ask around for one (or floss) because I’m no longer so conditioned to alleviate the situation with a nail right then and there.
Ok, I promise I’m done writing about how disgusting I am.
Pavlok Isn’t The Only Answer For Everyone, But It Was For Me
I’m sure some of you are reading along thinking, “what the hell, is this guy a Pavlok sales rep or what?” And the answer is no. This post is an entirely honest synopsis of my experience. It’s been the game changer for this habit in my life.
For other habits, I could see more of the conventional wisdom working well. Maybe it’s just me, but for nail biting, I couldn’t keep from laughing at any of the mainstream suggestions.
Pavlok is certainly just another tool in one’s arsenal to help change your habits. And as many would say, change your habits, and you change your life.
>Many of us love efficiency and working smarter over harder. Pavlok makes habit change pretty damn easy. Remember, I decimated a life long nail biting habit in less than a week. I’m confident I’d still be wearing gloves if that were my main strategy.
Moreover, I did all this with Pavlok 1. With Pavlok 2 there are even more powerful features and enhancements to help you even further.
If you’re serious about leaving nail biting behind, and you’ve been searching for a solution, Pavlok may be the answer.